Grief is a deeply personal journey, and offering a beautiful floral tribute can be a meaningful way to show support. While there's no single "right" choice, understanding the symbolism behind certain flowers and the appropriate timing for delivery can help you express your condolences with care.
The Best Flowers for Funerals and Sympathy
Different flowers carry unique meanings, making it possible to select an arrangement that truly honors the life of the deceased or offers comfort to the grieving family.
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Lilies: As a classic funeral flower, lilies symbolize the restored innocence of the soul after death. White lilies, in particular, convey purity and majesty, while stargazer lilies can represent eternal life.
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Roses: Roses are a universal symbol of love and respect. White roses denote reverence, innocence, and humility, while pink roses show appreciation. Dark crimson roses can signify grief and sorrow, making them a powerful choice.
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Carnations: These long-lasting and fragrant flowers are a popular choice. White carnations symbolize purity and innocence, while pink ones express remembrance. They are often used in funeral wreaths and arrangements.
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Chrysanthemums (Mums): In many European and Asian cultures, chrysanthemums are specifically associated with mourning and grief. In the U.S., they are often seen as a way to honor a life well-lived.
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Gladioli: With their tall, striking stalks, gladioli symbolize strength of character, sincerity, and integrity. They are an excellent choice for honoring someone who lived a life of great moral strength.
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Orchids: Orchids symbolize everlasting love. A potted orchid can be a thoughtful gift for the family, as it lasts long after the funeral, serving as a lasting reminder of your support.
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Peace Lily Plant: The Peace Lily plant is a very common sympathy gift. It represents peace, healing, and hope, and its beautiful green leaves and white flowers make it a comforting presence in a grieving family's home.
When choosing, consider the recipient's religious beliefs or cultural background, as some flowers may hold different meanings. Ultimately, a personal connection is most important—if the deceased loved a certain flower, that would be the most meaningful choice of all.
Appropriate Timing for Sympathy Flowers
The timing of your floral delivery can be as important as the selection itself.
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Before or During the Service: This is the most common time to send "funeral flowers." Arrangements, especially larger ones like standing sprays, wreaths, or baskets, are sent to the funeral home or place of worship to be displayed during the service. Your florist can coordinate with the funeral director to ensure a timely delivery.
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To the Family Home: Flowers sent directly to the family's home are often called "sympathy flowers." These are appropriate to send any time after you hear of the passing. Sending them a few days or even a week after the service can be a comforting gesture, as it reminds the family you are still thinking of them after the initial rush of the funeral has passed.
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On Special Dates: Sending flowers on a birthday, anniversary of the passing, or other significant date in the months or even years following the death is a truly thoughtful way to show you remember and care.
Whether you choose to send an arrangement to the service or a smaller bouquet to the home, your gesture of support will provide a touch of beauty and comfort during a difficult time.
